As this expansion wanes down, I'm finding myself more and more in the position of raid leader. This is not something I've got much experience doing, nor am I particularly comfortable doing so. That being said, however, I've been curious about how to approach performance related topics during raids. And even more importantly, when should a raid leader overlook a mistake?
Now, if I remember back to previous guilds I have been a raider in, I've got a wide variety of leadership at both ends of the spectrum. I've had a former Marine who's now a highway patrolman, and a female college student who just wanted to have fun in game.
The former Marine, as you can imagine, was a gigantic, complete, and utter dick at times. Ok, well most of the time. He was hard-core. He was a former raider in everquest, and we all know from the glory stories every everquest player has how much this entitles him as a badass. His approach to when a member of the raid messed up was to halt the raid, and wait for the guilty to fess up and apologize - sometimes 15 minutes would pass. He'd be nerd raging into vent, and once somebody spoke up, he shifted back to being a less-vocal dickhead.
He could give this guy a run for his money...
(Warning - offensive language and mildly offensive crudely done animations)
I think most rational people would not put up with that leadership style for very long, however.
This one the other hand seems much more friendly. The raid leaders pick a cartoon voice to imitate, and this video features Mickey, Goofy, and one of the South Park kids. It gets the job done and guild members get a good laugh out of it.
(Warning - also contains some offensive language)
So I'm trying to find a balance between the two, and figure out what, when, and how to approach things like members standing in a fire or hitting killing spree right before a mechanic that requires you to move and subsequently kills you.
This type of problem wouldn't exist, however, if players took more responsibility on themselves to learn fights and positioning. If a mistake was made, call yourself out on it, apologize, learn from it and move on. What ever you do, don't blame lag or some odd non-existent bug that got you killed when your character is clearly not lagging - you just messed up. And it's OK to admit it - faking reasons why the situation was beyond your control to avoid the clearly avoidable encounter mechanic just makes your fellow guild members lose respect for you.
That being said, I'd like to hear a few grand stories of how you've wiped an entire raid. Here's one of mine:
I'm on my way on my vanilla raiding character (rogue) to my second ever time in ZG, and I get to see new bosses I've never seen before. I was so excited. I zoned in, asked where the group was and they had just killed the tiger boss and were handing out loot. I had no clue where the tiger boss was. I just mounted up and followed the path of destruction and eventually found them right as they were coming down the ramp out of the tiger area. I realized as rode up, however, I somehow got aggro on a pack the group must not have killed, because I had a nice little train of mobs following me... So I vanished to hopefully lose aggro. Nope- they went straight for Mr. former Marine. As you can imagine this set him off with the quickness - it was rather funny though. "Who the F was that!? I know it was a rogue! I SAW YOU VANISH!"